6.16.2012

Another Step Forward

On Friday, The Man found out he did not get accepted into PTA (Physical Therapy Assistant) School. Again. This makes 2 rejections in 6 months. While we know that the reasons are mostly related to some less-than-stellar grades from undergrad, that he earned over 10 years ago, it is still disappointing.

And then today as I was doing dishes (which I never do, because it's The Man's job in our house, but maybe I should start), it occurred to me that for the first time in our married life, 8 years, we are facing career stability, and financial stability, for both of us even without the PTA program.

Hm, maybe I should explain a bit. Two summers ago The Man approached his current employer because he needed to make more money. Now, he wasn't just asking for a raise, his rate of pay is actually quite good, it was a problem with hours (he is a massage therapist and gets paid on commission). He basically told them he would do whatever they needed, wash toilets, clean, anything, if he could get paid an hourly rate during the hours he was not doing massage therapy. His bosses responded in a way that has worked out beautifully for both The Man and the rehab/fitness clinic at which he works. He started to work with the person who does all of the brace fitting and orthodics fitting in the Durable Medical Equipment (DME) part of the clinic with the plan of attending PTA school in the future. Well, he gained so much experience with the DME that he was able to become a certified orthodics fitter and is plenty busy between that and massage therapy.

While attending PTA school would indeed lead to an increase in salary overall, and that is always nice, it is not something we need. It would also mean a crazy, stressful schedule for the next year to end with 6 weeks of no paid-work due to rotations. We were planning to take a student loan to help us through those 6 weeks. As we talked last night, we pointed out these positives and others and agreed that it wasn't God's will and that was OK.

But today was really when it sunk in. Now, lest you think I am a callous uncaring wife, I hate that The Man had to be rejected twice. He works so hard and is such a good person, I would love to call the department chair and really let her have a piece of my mind. Yet, today, a new sense of freedom, of peace settled in, a new sense of normal.

For the first time in our married life, not only are we financially OK, but we are not waiting for something to be finished; we are not trying to figure out what is next. No, I'm not trying to say we've "arrived" or anything like that, and we certainly still have hopes and dreams...The Man has a big one that will be amazing, and of course we are still praying and trying to become parents. Yet, this is a new feeling. Rather than dreading 8 months from now when the financial floor becomes very unsteady, we can plan. We can really start to save and know that there isn't something there that is going to drain that savings.

Now, I realize financial issues are just as big a part of our cross as IF is, so I'm not forgetting all of that.  I know we can return to the uncertainty just as quickly as we got here. What I am doing is facing the future in a new way - a way that we have dreamed of for 8 years. With 2 steady paychecks from 2 steady jobs we can truly start to save and work towards owning a home again (we jumped into that way too fast the first time). We can think about vacations, and paying off cars. We can realistically think about what we want life to look like if a child joins us. (We've of course thought about this, but it was always with the understanding that it would vary greatly depending on when the child arrived and where The Man was at in his schooling.)

While I know this can all change quickly, I am going to relish and enjoy this new normal. We are going to take a fresh look at our finances and begin moving forward. When we moved back to Morgantown, in a lot of ways it felt like we were moving backwards - selling our 3 bedroom house to move to a 1 bedroom apartment; a huge career change for me; a leap of faith regarding The Man's career. Yes, moving into our rental house almost 2 years ago felt great. But now, almost 4 years since our move back to Morgantown, it feels like we are moving forward again. Truly moving forward. It is a new normal for us. I haven't felt this much anticipation since we were married.

17 comments:

  1. Great news out of bad news... a new outlook. I pray that your new outlook may find you on a sunny vacation!

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    1. That is definitely part of the plan! Our vacation money has all been spent on WVU Football tickets the past few years b/c once we paid for those it was all gone...we are hoping a beach is in our near future!

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  2. I'm glad you're able to see the silver lining...I know how much you guys have grown spiritually too as a result of your financial struggles. Seeing that silver lining has been a big part of your story and its really inspirational. I really think you should write a book or something that I could give to several people I know!

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  3. Way to make lemonade from the lemons of life! :) I'm glad you are moving forward and seeing all God has done, is doing in and for and with you. Praying for you, faraway friend.

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  4. Yay for fresh starts and moving forward!

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  5. So exciting!! Financial and career strain just... drains us... this is truly a blessing.

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  6. This post is so awesome. I'm so glad for you guys! I'm sorry The Man was rejected, but so pleased to see how you look at things. Our outlook really does make or break things for us sometimes!

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  7. Sweet outlook! I am happy for you and grateful that at least a little stress has been lifted from your life. What a good feeling to be able to look forward with such a positive attitude!

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  8. It's always frustrating and hard when the answer seems to be 'no' or at least 'not right now' ... but I am glad you are feeling a sense of peace and being settled as well.

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  9. Sorry he didn't get in. But I'm so glad you're enjoying the hard-earned stability! It's a good feeling to be in the position when you've worked so hard to get there. Kudos to you!

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  10. Like everyone else, I'm sorry he didn't get in, but I'm glad it's opening the door to some other exciting things!

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  11. Career stability is so comforting! I'm so glad that you are both able to see the positives in this situation!

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  12. That's awesome that you guys are in a good place with your careers and are feeling good about income! It is *such* a relief when you aren't fretting about finances every moment.

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  13. What a wonderful place to be after so much soul searching, acceptance and growth! So happy for you and your husband!

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  14. "Facing the future in a new way" is absolutely beautiful. And eight years is a long time to live with significant financial uncertainty (or worse at times).

    I hope that you get all of your dreams (both shared and individual) but it is very impressive that you are able to think about this and appreciate the goodness you have for now.

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  15. Truly a time of prosperity...your outlook blesses us all.

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  16. I'm glad you can see the positive through all of this. It is hard when God's plans don't like up with our plans. The Man is such a good provider! :-) You have QUITE the catch!

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