When I first mentioned to people that I know IRL that we were using NFP, I received a wide variety of responses. The one that stands out most in my mind is the one from my friend Kate.
I said something to the effect of: "The Man and I are starting to use NFP and are really nervous because while we're certain this is the right thing to do, we are also certain it's not time for us to be parents. We are really hoping that God isn't laughing at us."
Kate's reply: "NFP works, that's how we got Jonah."
My thoughts (that I might've said out loud): "Not exactly the example of 'NFP working' that I'm looking for."
One year later, I can look back and see just how right Kate's comment was AND how it should've been encouraging to me.
I know that I must've said something (or my face said it for me) similar to the above, because Kate quickly said 'no, really, on Day 3 you are still fertile.' At the time, I had no idea she was referring to post-peak day 3, or that she used Creighton not STM.
What I couldn't see then, but do now, is that while Kate's example wasn't the one I was looking for, it should have been. It shouldn't have mattered what someone's proof was that NFP works, all that should've mattered was that they were happy when they said it (meaning they meant it!). Kate's knowledge of when Jonah was conceived should have been an encouragement to me that NFP really did work and it was just a matter of learning and applying the 'rules'. Kate has never once called Jonah a mistake or an accident or any other negative way to describe a 'surprise' pregnancy, because she knows that he isn't a surprise at all!
One year later, instead of seeing Jonah and thinking, hmmm, maybe this NFP thing doesn't really work, now I see him and think what a beautiful example of NFP working he is! (And I know his momma does too.)