Six years (and a couple days) ago, a new family began. No, not with a pregnancy or the birth of a baby. But with a wedding.
Our wedding. Our family.
As of late, the question 'When will you start a family?' has stung in a different way. Not so much because it's really none of anyone's business if and/or when we will have children, but because what does that say about our marriage?
If we never have children are we any less a family?
I guess if we want to get technical, perhaps. I tried to find a definition of family that did not include 'children' in it. No such luck. (It's kind of like googling NFP and West Virginia.)
But I ask the question again: If we never have children are we any less a family?
I know that we, The Man and me, are a family. We, our family, comes first. Before me and before him, our family is first. Every decision we make is made by what is best for our family. Our family of 2.
And what about those couples who aren't able to have children? I'd say the struggle of infertility can only be endured by a family.
So maybe Webster, and dictionary.com, and every other definition-producing-source-I-could-find disagree with me. I don't care.
It just feels like such a slap in the face every time I have to answer that question. If we haven't spent the past 6 years building a growing a family, then what have we been doing?
We are grateful for the family we have created. And no, we do not have children.